For the entire existence of humanity, there has been a singular experience that unites us. No matter the time, geolocation, cultural surroundings or economic environment, human reproduction was universally recognized as an essential good. The gradual transition from child to adult to parent was a natural progression that was something to be celebrated. Not only did it denote a degree of maturity, but was also a sign of growing wisdom. The student truly becoming the master.
Parenthood is not experienced by all adults for many reasons that are valid. There are those who biologically do not have the faculties to naturally conceive or bear a child. There are also those called to the single state to serve the community in specialized ways.
Where things start to unravel is when the natural desire to parent a child is suppressed by selfishness. This can be either through immoral end runs around biological shortcomings or, a conscious decision to intentionally avoid parenthood.
Social media trends flaunt the dual-income no-kids trend, where two married people decide not to welcome the gift and responsibility of a child so that they can live as they choose. They shower themselves in luxury, fill their homes with pets, and delude themselves into thinking this is somehow a life worthy of living.
While deeply sad, the unraveling of this universal human experience represents a core sickness in society. It’s the acceptance of the idea that a child’s life, their existence, presents an obstacle to happiness or fulfillment. This is dangerous.
Parenting is a difficult task, requiring daily concentration, focus, and dedication. As a child grows, they frequently act in a way that goes against their own best interests. Parents must lovingly, firmly, and consistently offer correction so that, by the time the child reaches adulthood, they have the tools and boundaries to thrive independently.
The responsibility for a child is the most essential loving gift that we can give. No matter how imperfectly given, it’s also the gift that we ourselves have already received. May we endeavor to rise above ourselves, setting aside our needs for the needs of those entrusted to us.
Tags: Parenting
