Catholic Husband

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Managing Routines

One of the most difficult things that I’ve encountered in the married life is how to balance routines.

I’m talking about the time (usually in the evenings on weeknights) where you both have competing goals.

For example, I have a set number of things that I need to do each evening. I’m very task orientated in that way. I’ll only consider a day a success if I can accomplish those things. Of course, they take time.

My wife is people-oriented. She has some things that she’d like to get done, but if they don’t, it’s not a big deal.

The issue comes in when I am trying to get my things done, and she wants to do something together.

Sure, I should be flexible… but not so flexible that I neglect my goals and then miss the mark.

So I’m going to turn this one over to you.

How should I respond when my wife asks to do something with me in the evening and I know it will derail my routine?