Questions are powerful. Through the power of questioning, you can open up a whole new world. You learn about people, who they are, their unique story and how they view the world.

Conversations are driven by questions, including conversations with your wife.

There is one question that can really set the gears of gratitude in motion. “What was the best thing that happened to you today?"

I miss Alison during the day. Certainly I’m engaged in many different activities, but no matter how great of a day I’m having, I really look forward to when she’s home and we have some down time together. One of the practices that I’m starting to implement is asking her that fantastic question, “What was the best thing that happened to you today?” I want to know about her day, but I really want to focus on something that she really enjoyed… something that she really knocked out of the park.

Our days have ups and downs. Some days, we’re on it! Other days, nothing seems to go right. Despite what each day looks like to us, there’s always at least one thing that went well. By asking what was the best part of your spouse’s day, you can both start looking at your day from a positive light. Instead of dealing with the negative that bubbles to the surface, you go hunting for the really good things.

The funny thing is, the more you look for the “best thing,” the more good you see. It helps to grow your gratitude muscles. You start to recognize that even in a bad day, there was plenty of good, if you’re willing to look for it. You become more grateful for your work and for the experiences that you had.

We are incredibly lucky to live the lives that we have. Experience deeper gratitude today by asking your wife about the best part of her day.

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