Be Prepared to Give
Being married means living selflessly in a selfish culture.
I’m constantly evaluating my life. I look for behavior patterns, I look for habits and trends that are emerging. When I need to know what the model of being a great husband looks like, I look to St. Joseph. I know that I also frequently fall short of that standard. I want to be selfless, but I know I’ve got a ways to go.
A vocation to the married life isn’t a personal choice we make. Like those in the religious life, we are called to the married life. God has given us a unique set of skills and abilities that prepare us for the married life. It’s not just what we’re supposed to do, it’s what we were made to do.
As husbands, we are the heads of our household. We are charged with the care and protection of our family. It doesn’t have anything to do with social status or job title. It doesn’t have to do with what we can make with our hands or how much is in our bank account. It has everything to do with who we are as human persons.
As a husband you must be prepared to give everything you have.
Marriage is a life of service. So when you said, “I do,” you were really saying “I will.”
I will take care of my wife.
I will put her needs before my own.
I will wake up at 2am and clean up after her when she’s sick.
I will have a warm bath ready for her when she gets home at the end of a long day.
I will wait on hold for 45 minutes with the cable company so she can have access to the internet.
I will do the dishes while she entertains her friends.
I will drive her to all of her appointments.
I will take care of her when she can’t take care of herself and doesn’t remember who I am.