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Avoid the Dangers of the Internet

The internet is awesome.

With the internet, you are able to connect with people in ways never before possible.

Growing up, my dad was in the military. Every year or two, we’d move. I would have really great friendships that would end because we were no longer able to communicate.

I graduated from college three years ago and still connect with some my friends on a daily basis!

This is a blessing. It is a blessing to be able to get the best information on any subject, to maintain bonds of friendship, and to “feel” close to your family. It is a blessing to share ultrasound photos of your first child to your family 700 miles away.

As a husband, the internet is also a huge liability.

Here’s why.

Technology is a double edged sword. It can inform, but it can also destroy. According to an article in the New York Post, the word “Facebook” appeared in 1/3 of divorce filings in the United States. Affairs both physical and emotional are easier than ever to wander into.

It is all so innocent. Reconnecting with a friend from high school who you had a thing with can be fun. And that’s where the danger is. Fun turns into emotional infidelity and beyond that, maybe physical infidelity. The internet can be a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Here is how I have dealt with this potential threat:

  • I don’t use technologies that can easily lead to sexting (ex. Snapchat)
  • I severely limit my time on Facebook, and typically only use it when my wife is home
  • I have clear boundaries with what types of communication and humor are appropriate, especially in text messages

I’m not batting .1000, but I have a plan. The best way to defeat a threat is to eliminate it’s potential. You wouldn’t pull a Ron Swanson and store your oily rags over your wood burning stove.

Bottom line, remember that the internet can exaggerate reality. You chose your wife for a reason, well, hopefully more than one. Keep those reasons in mind. See the potential for disaster and avoid the possibility.